Tag Archives: self-respect

Who will be the first?


Well who would be the first?

Yes this is what we see in today’s kind of love. People just wait and wait for others to come first and approach for their love.

Even though they know what and where they are wrong but they feel going first and speaking would diminish their so called self-respect.

Look , I strongly feel that one should know the exact difference between self respect and ego.

There is a very fine line in between the both, so normally people think they are holding there self respect but they are actually doing wrong they are living with ego and make it grow more and more. And in the end they ruin their life .

They should not do that , what I strongly feel, as the trees which have the tendency to bend a bit end up living long, as long straight unbendable trees usually chopped and used for other purpose (Bamboo).

So, One should look beyond all these in life, egoism is not healthy for anyone especially in love it is very dangerous, people should preserve their love and nurture it better rather than spoiling it with their childish egoistic approach,

Going first and solving differences does not make you a small person, it makes you brave and bigger than your partner.

yes make sure that you don’t do anything beyond that margin of self-respect.

Dignified measures are good to sort it out ,

Make sure that you show them mirror if they are wrong and accept your mistakes as well , have proper communication and give them time to grow as an individual.

Thank you

Strengthening More..


Twisted,
Even Crushed,
Broken,
And yes shattered,

Losing Everyday,
Falling from several heights Again and again.


Thrown,
Also Dumped
Yes Even a little Dismantled..

Shocked,
And scattered Into Pieces..

But Still Fighting,
Yes Fighting To Survive,
And To Get succeed,

Recollecting The Pieces and fixing it again,

Beware,
I am Strengthening, we are strengthening..

Strengthening More ,
To Defend ,
And also Attack,

Strengthening Again,
To Stand,  survive, And Succeed.

Yes We are Strengthening More..

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Retirement & Responsibility


One Day Everyone of Us will reach to certain Ages where we have to consider ourselves retired at least by the physical contributions, society standards, and also as per the demands of family,

Everyone is very highly inclined at the working ages where one have command on the every parameters of life be it is a financial thing or a Any other responsibility ,

but when we reach to the stage where we have been considered as retired by social standards, we have to get dependent on every single thing on our kids , be it is a financial need or any other requirements ,

sometimes kids have this realization that from this month my father/mother doesn’t have the same job so I have to be their for fulfilling all the needs but sometimes we do forget this just by a fault or even by lapse or unavoidable conditions,

at that stage we do observe how after all those days of work and having money all around life changes,

but we just forget that we can’t afford everything what we feel to have , it is quite scratchy to ask sometimes as ego does comes,

sometimes people over think and consider themselves as worthless ,

we do see that same person who merely went to buy a packet of candles has started purchasing the households and grocery, shall we say time teaches..

Or we can say they do want to contribute in the way they could. It is painful to observe it .

But yes it is a learning thing even at such days because the more you are creating barrier,

you find your self in a very doubtful situation it is also a thing to understand that one should never get too dependent on anyone at least to cope up with his own self respect.

And yes the one who has responsibility of individuals of certain old age people and our parents should always prioritize their needs on fore front.

Life is smooth and Fine when we don’t have any curtains in between, As We do find self created barriers which is sometimes so strong that it becomes Unbreakable.

Planning Life is Not Always Possible, But Prioritizing Life is Always Possible.

His Wife…


His Wife,

She is His wife ,

Wife of the one who don’t works ,

Don’t Have a job ,

Don’t Have a business ,

Don’t Even Have any Assets to look at.

She is the one who has to look at her In Laws for the basic requirements,

Yes For Food, Clothes, Bills And What Not.

Yes She is his wife,

She has been taunted for every single slice of bread and tea they sip.

She is His Wife, Wife of a Jobless,

Jobless, but more because of his unwillingness to do work.

Somewhat sounds like a Wife of a Worthless.

She can’t Smile freely, as it require happiness.

And She is not Happy at all,

Like Every Lady she wants her Partner to do good in every aspect.

She can’t sit in the group of ladies,

Because She has everything which she can’t hide and nothing which she could show.

She can’t evolve with people,

can’t sit and stand freely at any place.

Can’t demand,

Can’t Purchase,

Can’t Even feel the need of having a Dinner at Restaurant.

She is his wife,

Being His Wife is Tough,

It came to her without her choice but yes as a fate,

Hope he Understands it,

And Works Hard to Raise her head high among many..

if not, she should find a way to deal with it.

There is no point to Diminish your own Self Respect.

S Y S T E M !


Hello Everyone,

Today I thought Just to Put a glare on the Various Systems ( Functionings), With which we usually deal in our daily life, with And without our choice,

Guys , we often see People complaining about the things with which they felt Discarded ,Also toxic and end up Leaving it for their own good, as It becomes suffocating to withstand with something which is not Productive and also Unworthy,

And If You find it decent than the people who are running it make it terrible, Like I Work in Private Sector and it has been said that everything what we have in the private sector is Very Professional and You may get paid as per your output,

it was also stated that the People are being associated with multiple Job responsibilities , so that one could learn more than One thing if he is actually happy in learning,

And yes we all have been said that Growth of An Individual is Very Good, With Job satisfaction and Productive Involvement.

But later I Have Observed, that People are having negative mindsets, they feel that “even if we put our Life for the respective organization we are not going get to recognized,”

“we will never get any monetary gains,”

“we will never ever get appreciated,”

they are just scared to do new things,

they just don’t want to learn and grow,

even of they know it,they would say

we don’t know,

we can’t do,

this is not our cup of tea etc.

They Even divert the job responsibility,

They are so Negative in thoughts that , they don’t Even ready to share the knowledge or even help their juniors if they seek help from them,

it is so disturbing to me, even the Paper works are very slow and cumbersome,

In fact I gave an interview Recently and in which I cleared the technical interview and it was the salary part which was about to be discussed, I gave my expected salary to the HR department and then they haven’t called me for 10 days and I have to call them for the same, then they said we can’t pay lesser than the half of what you have mentioned as your expected salary,

I was not happy with the Fish Market Bargaining,

As I was Very Much in the market Rate. I said It is not about what you can pay and what not, but what it took to make a call on the very next day or a day after or even 3/4 days post interview.

as I was happy about my interview and the feedback, and was serious about your Organization, They Said We Thought You will Understand it yourself, that we can’t pay. I replied your organization is one of the reputed ones and I never thought you people can’t pay the nominal market salary , and above it this approach is something which I never expected from your end. Even if I have asked more than what you kept as salary for the job, you people have conveyed me the same, and at least informed me about it, there is always a scope of negotiations, but I think Your company can’t even afford a phone call, I replied and disconnected the call.

Even many of my friends have also mentioned the same that some of the Interviewers are not at all Sensitive, they neither inform about your selection not even about your rejection, they just call and take the interview and Collect the database,

I have observed that people usually leave their job after 1 or 2 years,

I felt that may be the individuals are not mentally stable, or even got better package, I later came to know the reason of it, that The people who have performed well, did the extreme hard work and expected an appraisal , increment,and even promotion has never got it, instead had been asked to do Overtimes without any pay for a constant time, and they left the job once they find a better one,

I feel that The people who are recruiting individuals have the responsibility of Finding Performing individuals and preserve them for a long time, as they have to be given respect for bringing the best from the rest,

Recruiting individuals is not the only modern day thing of HR Department, it is about Finding the best team and making them stay with you to have the best output . Just for A little lesser Amount Organizations compromises with their proven Individuals and find someone new as we have pool of Unemployed People and that individual takes time to understand things,and even they may not fit in the same place, then they face severe Loss of output, Quality of work and a team of Performers,

There should be a Policy to Find, Nurture and Sustain with the individuals.

Think About it.

Thank You

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I Feel..


I Feel,
That mostly People are Good but they have that unnecessary attitude , which makes them alone and avoidable.

They should Chop it to the end, to do more good things in their life, as it defines you more when you behave ,

The most successful people have been those whose attitude have been enigmatic by being humble,

the people who are more inclined towards ego, arrogance and of course proud ends up doing nothing though they’re potentially talented.

Sometimes it is your behavior which drags you down , and sometimes its the same which lifts you Up.

It is not new that the people with lesser talent have been preferred over someone with much more talent , just because of the arrogance, and attitude the talented individual has.

So, Your attitude actually defines you in life .

One can learn the things gradually but your etiquettes should be Perfect even if you are slow,

You can’t argue or misbehave with  your teacher just because you have secured good marks in the previous class out of many students,
you have to keep your feet grounded, and have humbleness to learn and gain more in life.

Think about it Sir/Madam.

Read Before You React.


Hello People,

Well I am writing about it today , but I actually wanted to write even before, I don’t know how many of you agree with me and what are your opinions about it,

but i really feel sad so sharing my views

Guys , Nowadays the WordPress readers are not readers any more, they are doing their formalities , why I am saying this because, I have observed it from a long time,

The readers are reading a full length 3500+ words story in just 4 seconds of being published,

I still don’t know what sort of talent it is and how they read it ,

if they actually read it in that particular duration of time , then it’s more than a miracle for me, and I would like to learn that special power what they have ,

but if they don’t read (Obviously they don’t Read) and like it without reading a single line with the reasons better known to them, is very disheartening to me,

I always want people to read it regardless of their choices of likes or feedback, but they should read it first.

It may be satisfactory to some, but not to me, I don’t have any fantasy for Number Of likes , comments etc

I want to make it clear please don’t like without reading it,

This is a cheat to yourself first, Then to the Writer.

And yes I want to add one more thing , this is not with everyone , but yes many of us are of such mindsets who have a knack of pleasing people for their choice, or revert . (like to get a like back.)

Which I hate the most, The process should be read then react if needed,

and we all know how much time it takes to read 500 words, 1000 words, and 4000 words for any human being, you can’t complete it in just seconds.

please avoid this practice if you are of such kind.

And enjoy this space for knowing perceptions, observations, opinions, thoughts, stories, and creations etc.

Don’t contaminate it like any other social networking platform. The uniqueness of this platform makes it what it is.

And If they think they haven’t been noticed than they are making mistake.

We all know who is genuinely reading and reaching towards our posts, and who is not.

Please this is my sincere request to read my posts, with your interest of reading, not for anything else,

and react after reading even if you haven’t liked it just put your words in the comment section and help Me to learn more and write even better.

I hope my words are making sense to all. As I feel my concern is not wrong.

Thank You ,

You all are beautiful. But Be a Good Reader 🙂

Take care.

Aside

Please Don’t Read !


Please Don’t Read,

Don’t Read it Please,

It’s Not Good,

Not Good for Anyone.

You may feel bad.

You may curse love.

You may hate god,

You may start crying,

Because It’s filled with Pain.

And Decorated with cheat.

It is layered with Greed,

And poured with selfishness.

You may find Questions ,

But You can’t find The Answers.

And You may need some Fresh Air to breathe,

it’s really very Toxic.

It’s terrible for your heart and also for mind.

You may Not love .

You may never trust .

You may hate the Emotions .

Yes it is Negative.

Please Don’t Read,

Yes Please,

I Request You My Friend,

Don’t Read My Story,

Please Don’t Read My Story.

Thank you WordPress.


Dear WordPress And My Lovely Fellow Bloggers, Thank you so much for being with me with all my senseless thoughts and Silly words,

I appreciate everyone of you for being there with me with every single post of mine and encouraging me to do a bit better than yesterday,

it is overwhelming to know that I have surpassed 3years on WordPress,

I can’t express my gratitude towards WordPress for giving me an opportunity to put my views , thoughts and stories a platform through which I have been able to reach beyond the horizons,

yes it gave me the big strong wings to fly and even fly higher.

Thank you everyone

keep all the love coming, and support me in the way you all did so far.

God Bless.

Quote

Definitely You..


I know….

I have more things to do…

But I have my own selected priorities , though it look silly to some and careless to many..

But yes i do have my priorities.. And the most prior of the priorities is you…

Definitely You.

Life starts with you and Ends at you

Love to sleep over your Lap


Lap…

I love to sleep over your lap,

I feel so calm,

Also sleepy..

My worries don’t haunt me anymore..

And I am not the same insomniac ..

Also, I don’t have headaches..

I feel so good…

Chilled and relaxed..

I feel free to breathe,

All my tensions get vanished..

Yes your Lap,

similar to my mother’s lap,

the warm and soothing Lap..

Lap ,

just love to sleep over your lap.

Let me sleep over your lap.

Even I accepted their lies.


They asked me few things about an issue, actually they wanted me to answer it either in a spicy way or they wanted to put me in some troublesome state,

I smilingly said why you people are asking me this.? Don’t you believe their stated truths, Or you feel that I need to say my version.

They said we want to know your side.

I replied, There is no my side or their side, there is truth and their false.

So you have to see what you take from their talks,

We don’t believe them, they said.

I answered I believe them, as I don’t care about anything now , I have nothing to loose. And they may be putting the right things forward, I don’t know what they are saying though, but even I accepted their lies, I can’t do much either.

As even don’t know the real truth. And I have nothing to do with the truth now, as they did what they wanted to, and the damage couldn’t be recovered ever, but yes they have been good in chopping and presenting things in their suited way.

But, I don’t have any interest in giving justification to anyone, or to put my side on the issue. As I am not here to prove Anything to anyone, I know my side I am right by best of thoughts, and deep down they also know what is right and what is not right, who is culprit and who is not, and above all there is someone who knows everything and he is looking at everything, to whom we call Almighty, The God,

Moreover I heard that, they are too good and the world is too bad ,and I am too bad and the world is too bad , as per the talks what I came to know from the people in between me and them.

Anyways We all are going to pay for the deeds we do , if not today then tomorrow for sure.

if you are good you will receive good things from god , if bad then you have to be ready for the outcome, you can’t get away from your punishments.

So , I don’t care what they are saying as I am only answerable to the god , but in my case it’s God who has to answer me, as he may don’t have any question and I have many to ask him. And it would start from Why me? ?

I hope i will get the answer,!!!

Anyways you are free to think and consider me anything you want as liberty is there for everyone.

But my identity is best known to me and god. Likewise truth is better known to God , culprit and victim.

But if they say I am culprit , then yes I am culprit . nothing to objectify or even feel bad. As they are not the decision makers . so why to think or care about it.

Then they smiled and said you said nothing in particular but said everything.

And I smiled back.

Thank you for reading.

They say…..


They say I am too good for this,

And they say I am too bad to be here,

they say you may think that way or even this way,

they say you can’t do this,

And they say only you can do this ,

they say you may have think so, And they say you may have thought that,

they say you have mood swings,

Also, they say you have overconfidence,and rash attitude,

they say you can’t do much,

As you are sick with your actions,

Also you are carefree,Negligent and over rated.

Wait,

How do they say so, ?

Do they have any clue about me?

how could be they saying so,

how they can be presuming about my mind, and heart, ?

how they are so judgemental!

And why?

Who are they to think that I may think or may have thought so,

Why they consider me so...?

What gives them that courage to be so considerable about me.

Literally What ???

Look & Listen

I am not like what you presume or consider ,

I am just way beyond your imaginations.

I love being Me,

I won’t mind if you think I have attitude or I am carefree.

I have something about which you can only dream to have.

And that’s my originality I am not fake,

I am Rude ,or care free.

I have my head high for everything I do.

And I don’t need a certificate for being selfless from you.

I am not this or that,

I don’t think this way or that way,

I am Too Good for your mind to pick or presume.

And it’s only me who know it better that what I can do and what I can’t, Got it .

Take care!

**Don’t be Judgemental about anyone, as they know themselves better.

Virgin…


After 2 years of her marriage ,

Pia came back to India to stay with her family, so many of her friends came to meet her,

they asked her many random questions about her and husband,

like,

how is your marriage,?

You both are happy ?

How you have been these days etc.

she said yes I am happy as I look. And we are living with all possible happiness.

Her friend (Nisha) said , all good !that’s enough as you have been the most reserved girl from our group! And went to abroad all of a sudden .

Pia replied ‘ yes i have been very shy and reserved.,

Pia asked – What about you, are you still flirting with all?

Nisha replied- yes sometimes for fun and sometimes for seriously nothing.

But tell me about you how good is your life, you are looking different, he is nice to you right?

I mean why you came alone where is he?,

Pia replied ‘ of course he wanted to come but he had some commitments.

yes I can’t tell you about it in details but I feel so lucky to be his wife.

Her friend was not convinced as she can observe that her eyes were saying something else.

She again, asked her the same question in a different way,

” hey your husband is a rich guy , I saw his profile has some good money in the bank and also have a lot of property etc right?.”

She replied ‘ yes so.

Her friend puzzled pia ” are you not excited with that, like money ,property cars etc.

pia replied “yes if it excites you then I am also excited.”

Her friend could sense that pia is missing something, she asked her again and again by some promises and all.

Pia replied ” yes I am married I love him and he loves me, yes he is rich and talented that’s it,

but you know what I feel like i am still partially virgin,

Yes we travelled everywhere but not like a couple , he was there with some work and consignments.

And I was there to make him feel stress relieved whenever needed.

He has been there with me, but not there for me, more for status showoff. To show it to the world through social networking sites.

And you know how we love, it is more like robots following some of the mating commands.

Yes He is a proper straight man and i am also proper straight girl, nothing odd as it sounds.

but the fact is that, he only touched my body and not my soul, and never allowed me to get in his zone of privacy.

We are not connected to each other like we should have.

My body is not virgin my friend but yes my emotions are , my heart is not there when I am with him because he is not also there with me, its more like a task to him or an activity to loose stress for him, that’s it,

he is busy with his cigars and phone ,

he is there but he is not there with me actually ,

he loves his work more than himself. He love me but his style of love is not what I like may be he don’t even know how to love.

He has a time for everything like 10mins for breakfast , 5mins for getting ready etc,

he is a big time management insect.

It’s good professionally.

but not for the layers of love to get unfolded.

But I am happy as I can’t be sad.

***Love is beyond the materialistic happiness. Love them with everything you have,not just posting pictures and buying gifts.