Well who would be the first?
Yes this is what we see in today’s kind of love. People just wait and wait for others to come first and approach for their love.
Even though they know what and where they are wrong but they feel going first and speaking would diminish their so called self-respect.
Look , I strongly feel that one should know the exact difference between self respect and ego.
There is a very fine line in between the both, so normally people think they are holding there self respect but they are actually doing wrong they are living with ego and make it grow more and more. And in the end they ruin their life .
They should not do that , what I strongly feel, as the trees which have the tendency to bend a bit end up living long, as long straight unbendable trees usually chopped and used for other purpose (Bamboo).
So, One should look beyond all these in life, egoism is not healthy for anyone especially in love it is very dangerous, people should preserve their love and nurture it better rather than spoiling it with their childish egoistic approach,
Going first and solving differences does not make you a small person, it makes you brave and bigger than your partner.
yes make sure that you don’t do anything beyond that margin of self-respect.
Dignified measures are good to sort it out ,
Make sure that you show them mirror if they are wrong and accept your mistakes as well , have proper communication and give them time to grow as an individual.